Recently, numerous people have been telling me that I should not stop doing things for another person because I’ll never know what the future may hold.  Somewhere down the line, whether it be a few months or a few years from now, that person, whom I have helped, will return my good deed.  In other words, they are saying: do good to others and in return, they will remember and help you later.

I am a cynical person when it comes to believing in the goodness of the world.  I know I shouldn’t be, but most of the time, I just can’t help it.  I guess you can say I have seen and experienced a lot of negative things for me to have this kind of view in life.

I don’t believe that everyone I have helped will remember what I’ve done for them.  There is a saying that goes, “When you do something right, no one remembers.  When you do something wrong, no one forgets.”  With that being said, I don’t believe in the goodness of people.  People are selfish, inconsiderate, and very forgetful for their convenience.

I do things for people because I want to, not because I expect something in return.  Like I said, I don’t believe in the goodness of people (not even myself).  And I think I am one of the most selfish people I know.

And it also goes the other way around.  If you do something for me from the goodness of your heart, without me asking you to, don’t use it as a leverage for an argument if I refuse to help you later on.  An example, fixing my car (not because I asked you to, but because you wanted to) and then getting pissed off at me because you can’t use it whenever you feel like it.  You do have your own car and I also need mine.  In other words, don’t do a good deed only because you expect something in return.  That should not be how giving and receiving works.  You should do something because you want to, not because you feel you have to, someone told you to, or you want something from that person.

2 thoughts on “Giving and receiving

  1. I don’t think its that bad being cynical. I’m super cynical compared to you but I like to think of you as pragmatic, not cynical. You have a good balance.


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