I believe that I am a fair person. I try not to judge. I try to understand. I may not agree with other people’s choices or lifestyles, but I can empathize. Any kind of person. Any kind of situation. Unless you’re a cheater or an abuser.
Cheaters and abusers are the dirtiest, lowest scums in the world. No matter what excuses or explanations they give for their actions, I cannot understand and will not accept them.
Some excuses I’ve heard from cheaters are:
- I don’t know what I was doing. It just happened.
- I wasn’t happy with my partner/spouse.
- My partner/spouse was never there for me.
Excuses from abusers:
- My partner/spouse/child made me do it.
- I was drunk/high/stressed/angry.
- My partner/spouse/child pushed me to my limit. (They should’ve known better).
The amazing thing about life is that we are able to make choices. We all make choices in everything that we do. What pair of jeans would match this top? Should I make a complete stop at this stop sign? I like my co-worker, should I ask her out (my partner/spouse would never find out)? I’m very angry at my partner/spouse/child, how can I express my anger?
When people cheat or abuse others, they are making the choice to do so. Cheaters don’t know what they were doing? It just happened? Of course, it just happened that you took off your pants and had sex with another person. You’re not happy with your partner/spouse? Then why are you still with them? Leave that person if you’re not happy with them. Your partner/spouse was never there for you? Again, why are you with that person? Leave the relationship. Don’t want to leave? Can’t leave? Well, once your partner/spouse finds out about your infidelity, your relationship will either be over or will never be the same again anyway.
Abusers always blame the victims for the abuse. The victim made you do it? You were under the influence? Yes, they pushed you to your limit and you couldn’t handle it anymore, so you did what you had to—abuse them. If it was the victim or drugs that made you do it, then others would handle the same situation the same way, am I right? What would a non-abusive person do if they were in your position? They would’ve NOT abuse and walked away.
Like I said, it’s about the choices that we make. Cheaters choose to cheat. Abusers choose to abuse. And I choose not to tolerate it.