When a man (or anyone, for that matter) says that a female is not “girlfriend material” because she’s too “wild,” what do you think of? Do you think of a hard-partying girl? Do you think of an independent woman who doesn’t take shit from anyone? Do you think of someone who does what she wants to do and doesn’t let anything restrict her from living her life? Do you think of someone not ready to settle down? Again, what do you think of when a man says that a woman is not “girlfriend material” because she’s too “wild?”
I don’t think of what she is. I think of what kind of person he is to have made such a statement. It says a lot about the man. It says that he needs a relationship where he has the control. What kind of control? Control over his partner and what she can and cannot do. Why? Because that is the one thing he cannot do with a “wild” girlfriend—Control.
What is “girlfriend material?” I’m assuming from the statement that girlfriend material consists of passivity, submission, and obedience. Someone who listens and does what he wants her to do. Someone who is ready to let go of her identity, her life and settle down with him.
Let’s look at it from the man’s point of view so that we won’t misunderstand him.
He doesn’t want a girl who is too “wild.” A girl who is wild is very independent and values it greatly. She does what she wants to do and when she wants to do it. In other words, she doesn’t let restrictions hold her down. And, she also likes to be around friends and/or have fun (such as party, club, go out). Marriage is far from her mind. Of course, we all don’t want a future with anyone who doesn’t listen to you, respect you, or likes to party too much. We want someone who is ready to settle down and a wild girl is not ready for that.
When we think of our future, we think of being with that other half who completes us. If we’re controlling, we want someone who bends down to our demands with no complaints. If we’re jealous, we want someone who knows what triggers our jealousy and will make sure they don’t trigger it. If we’re possessive, we want someone who knows that they belong to us and they cannot do anything to disrespect that. So, when a girl is too wild, she’s less likely to bend down, care about what triggers jealousy, and/or respect that she is someone’s possession.
After analyzing it, I finally get it.
Please let me know what your opinions are on this. Why do you think people, mostly males, would make such statement about a woman?