Can you believe it, 2012 is here! We have less than 12 months to live until the end of the world. Haha! No, the world is not going to end on December 21, 2012. Life is just barely beginning!
I have never done new year’s resolutions. When I was younger, I used to think they were a load of BS. I mean, why wait until the beginning of the year to make a life-changing goal and strive for it? Shouldn’t it be that you make resolutions all year long? Who came up with new year’s resolutions anyway? And although I have never found the answers to my questions, I’ve realized that the new year motivates people to try something new and work towards positive changes. A new year should bring about a new you, am I right?
This year will be the first year I’m making new year’s resolutions. I have 2 resolutions: 1) Eat less meat; and 2) Do more self-care.
My first new year’s resolution shouldn’t be that difficult. I already love my veggies (and fruits). I just need to cut back on the meat. I would love to be vegan, but there are certain dishes (e.g., pho, kapoon, egg rolls, boiled pork with greens, Hmong sausage, Hmong boiled chicken with herbs) that I love, love, love, and I just can’t give them up.
The harder resolution is the second one: Self-care. What is self-care, you may ask. It simply is taking care of yourself. Self-care encompasses many things—such as saying no, not taking on things you can’t handle, taking a break from work/school/chaotic family life/etc, spending time doing something you love, hanging out with friends and/or family, being alone, and so much more. Today’s world is going at such a lightening-fast pace that our bodies and minds are constantly going and going and going. There is no time We make no time to stop and simply just breathe and take care of our aching soul.
I have always been doing self-care, but not as much as I should. Daily stress can really take a toll on us. We may think we’re okay and then one day—BAM!—we hit a concrete wall and realize we can go no further. Some people quit their jobs of 10+ years, get divorced, buy an expensive I-can’t-afford-it car, or leave their family obligations behind. In my opinion (I have no scientific fact to back this up) what people describe as mid-life crisis may just be the result of not doing self-care. A wonderful woman I know introduced me to a wonderful book last year, Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others. While I was reading it, I realized that I do have secondary trauma from the work that I do as a parent and advocate. As I was reading page by page, chapter by chapter, I saw myself in the examples the author gave. It was so eye-opening! I really thought I was doing a good job of taking care of myself. And so, I am making changes to take better care of myself so I can function at 100% to be a better person.
Well, happy new year to everyone!
May you work hard this 2012 to bring you peace and happiness.