I hear many people talk about love as something to fight for. We see it and hear it everywhere: the media, online, friends, family, quotes. If you search online for inspirational love quotes, you will come upon a feast of them. Love is battlefield. It’s us against the world. Nothing can come between us.
If you’re in a healthy relationship, and you love that person, then by all means, fight for it. Go against society and traditions. Stand up for your love. Do whatever it is you feel you need to do to make it last and worthwhile.
However, people tend to take these concepts of fighting for love and incorporate them into abusive relationships. They may not be aware that they’re in an abusive relationship. They tell themselves that love is a battlefield and if they fight and hold on to that person who mistreats them, everything will work out in the end. My abuser will change; it’s just a matter of time. And when friends and family try to intervene, they may see it as meddling (because their abuser says so) and then isolate themselves from their support system.
You deserve happiness. You have the right to be treated with love and respect. You have the right to love someone who will love you back and not abuse you. When you come to love yourself, you gain so much.