A Hmong Woman is my personal blog—ramblings, opinions, blahs of my thoughts. This blog is a medium for me to express myself on the world wide web and serves as a forum for discussion. I am not an expert nor have I done extensive research on the Hmong culture and community for this blog to serve as a reliable source for your research assignment or school work. Many of the cultural components I talk about here are from my individual experience and observations, and they do not qualify as evidence for the Hmong community as a whole. You can read my disclaimer here.
Why am I writing this? Because I am receiving an increasing amount of emails from those who are reaching out for help (academic, love/relationship, cultural, family). I am humbled that you value my opinion, but I also feel as if I am in no position to give advice. I do try to answer your questions to the best of my abilities without impeding on your capability to think for yourself. I value empowerment and in that way, I do not give advice, but redirect you to solve your problems yourselves. I don’t mind the questions at all, but there are a few things I want to point out:
First of all, please do not ask me to answer your essay/homework question(s). I will ignore those.
I receive many love/sex/relationship questions. I am not a love guru. I have no to little idea how to please your man ; I don’t know what your man want in a relationship; nor do I know how to turn your man on. There are also many questions in my inbox asking me how to deal with interracial marriages or how to deal with Hmong parents disliking your partner. I can give you insight from my perspective, but it’s up to you to take everything into consideration and make the decision for yourself.
I am not an attorney, so questions regarding legal advice will always be referred elsewhere.
What is the definition of a Hmong woman? This is by far, the most asked question. Maybe because it is the title of my blog. Or maybe because many of the topics I write about relate to being a Hmong woman. My answer will always be the same: We each have our own definition of what it means to be a Hmong woman. What you define as a Hmong woman may be different from what I define as a Hmong woman. And how I define myself should not affect how you define yourself. We each live our lives as we see fit. Being a Hmong woman is arbitrary. I have been working on what it means to be a Hmong woman for so long, I still have no clear idea because it is always evolving.
Lastly, I enjoy your stories and comments and encourage you to share them whenever you feel comfortable. Keep them coming.