#metoo

There's been much on the news about Harvey Weinstein's history of sexual harassment and assault. What ensued was an explosion of women coming forward to disclose sexual abuse and harassment by this man and other power men. Sexual assault or harassment doesn't start or end with Weinstein or big Hollywood execs or people with power.…

How Racism Looks Like for a Child

My evening conversations with my children consist of the usual: How was your day? How are you doing? A few weeks ago, while we're sitting on my bed, Little Mermaid told me that Aiden made fun of her at school. "Mommy, Aiden called me Chinese today," she broke into tears. "I told him that I'm…

Say What?! Feminism is Veganism

Being feminist means being vegan. You can't be a true feminist if you're eating meat. I read this comment on Facebook and it hit a nerve with me. My first reaction was, "Why should people be telling others what to eat and what not to eat?" The more I thought about it, the more it bothered me for…

BOF Day of Action: Sacramento, CA

Hello, everyone! I've already posted this on my Facebook Page, but I'll post it here for those who do not have a Facebook account. The Building Our Future Sacramento Team has been working very hard at organizing our upcoming BOF event. If you are in the Sacramento area, I would like to invite you to…

Building Our Future: Champions Against Abusive International Marriages

The first time I heard about abusive international marriages (AIM) was at the Hmong National Development Conference in Fresno, CA in April 2013. Presented by Kabzuag Vaj (Freedom Inc), Nancy Xiong (George Mason University), and Pa Vang (University of Wisconsin), "Abusive International Marriage - Transnational Domestic Violence" was a workshop to present a report about AIM…

“Girls Will Be Happy If They Get Married Crying.”

Warning: Very emotionally tense videos ahead. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=459987150789877&set=vb.100003357884515&type=2&theater This is a video of a group of Black Hmong in Sapa, Vietnam. The young girl is being dragged by men who are practicing what we call zij poj niam---in other words, bride-napping. I first saw this video circulating the social network sites at the end of last year.…

Sex Talk

How young is too young when it comes to talking about sexuality, puberty, and where babies come from? In my opinion, it is never too early to start. Kids need to be aware and know the facts before their friends start teaching them and before they start puberty (which can be as young as 10…

Disney’s “Frozen”

I walked into the Disney store a month ago because the kids wanted to look at "Frozen" merchandise: Elsa and Anna dolls, a singing Olaf, dresses, wigs, and many more. I caught a glimpse of a sign that read, "Froze: Coming to DVD March 18." Little Mermaid saw the sign as well. She turned to me…

A Hmong Wife’s Role

I came upon this scan of a Hmong text in a forum.  The original poster had stated that this reading material was used in a Hmong class at Washington Tech High School in Saint Paul, MN. It created great dislike within this group of Hmong women. Translation: A Hmong wife's responsibility is to oversee everything in…