Desensitized to Racism

During a workshop on diversity, the facilitator put everyone into groups and asked us to discuss our most recent experience of racism. Everyone in my group was stumped. We could not think of a time when we felt someone was being racist towards us. I thought out loud to the group, "Maybe we can't think…

Nkauj Hnub thiab Nraug Hli

I found this beautiful paj huam (Hmong poem) that Nujtxeeg posted on the Hmongza forum, telling the story of Nkauj Hnub (Maiden of the Sun) and Nraug Hli (Man of the Moon). This story describes the tragic love story of Nkauj Hnub and Nraug Hli, who will forever yearn for each other's love and are only allowed…

On this Father’s Day

Dear Father, A reader suggested on Facebook a year ago that I write a blog for Father's Day.  To be completely honest, I have no idea where to start.  It's something that I haven't done and have never even thought of doing.  However, I want to do this. I am sitting here in front of…

Reflections and Afterthoughts: 16th HND Conference

I spent the first weekend of April in Fresno at the 16th Hmong National Development Conference (HNDC). Two days filled with people (majority of them Hmong) from all over the United States and China. I attended workshops, met many interesting people, had great conversations, and built new friendships. I heard about the conference two years…

Hmong Wife vs. Hmong Girlfriend

I have been noticing a trend as friends and family are getting married over the recent years. I have observed that it is completely okay for a girlfriend to lack in the cooking, cleaning, and other "womenly" duties department, but once she's married, she is expected to conform to traditional roles. What is the difference…

Update Update Update!!!

Oh my gosh! It has been almost two months! Where have I been? I have been to the moon and back. April was Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM). I volunteered to be a part of the SAAM planning committee at work, so I spent half of March and April stressing over it. Kind of bittersweet…

Letter to the Girlfriend of my Abusive Ex

Dear girlfriend of my abusive ex; We don't know each other, but I am sure you have heard a lot about me, as I have about you.  I am the crazy psycho ex-girlfriend of your boyfriend.  It has been brought to my attention that my name is still being uttered in your presence---by him and…

The Journey Forward: The Next Chapter of Hmong Americans

Hmong National Development, Inc (HND) is a non-profit organization based out of Washington DC. Its mission is to empower the "Hmong community to achieve prosperity and equality through education, research, policy advocacy and leadership development." HND hosts a conference every other year to bring together leaders, educators, professionals, advocates, and individuals to celebrate and discuss…