How Racism Looks Like for a Child

My evening conversations with my children consist of the usual: How was your day? How are you doing? A few weeks ago, while we're sitting on my bed, Little Mermaid told me that Aiden made fun of her at school. "Mommy, Aiden called me Chinese today," she broke into tears. "I told him that I'm…

Children and Children

Mini Mermaid told me the other day that she wants to get married in the future but does not want to have any children. This isn't the first time she has informed me of her choice to be child-free. She is going to marry at age 29 to the person she loves and likes. She…

Disney’s “Frozen”

I walked into the Disney store a month ago because the kids wanted to look at "Frozen" merchandise: Elsa and Anna dolls, a singing Olaf, dresses, wigs, and many more. I caught a glimpse of a sign that read, "Froze: Coming to DVD March 18." Little Mermaid saw the sign as well. She turned to me…

On Santa’s Lap

The holidays are approaching.  The mall just had their tree-lighting ceremony last weekend.  I already see Christmas decorations and Christmas merchandise in department stores way before Halloween.  Every year, Christmas seems to start earlier and earlier. One of my family's Christmas traditions is to take a walk down Christmas Tree Lane.  Three years ago, we…

Innocence

When I look at my children, I am filled with a tingly happiness that I cannot describe.  This happiness makes me smile and forget about my worries.  I can have an emotionally draining day at work and come home to see my two beauties sleeping soundly in their beds, and I forget what a rough…

Working Again

I was laid off in 2007, just like many others have experienced in this rough economy.  It was announced a couple of months ahead of time that the center would be closing and almost everyone would be laid off.  So, when they asked for volunteers to go first, I didn't hesitate to sign up.  In…

Fear of Death

Sendie-Lou wrote a blog after reading an article about a 3-year-old girl who survived on leftover food for 2 days after her mom died.  Sendie thought about what would happen if she and her spouse suddenly died .  What would happen to her children? She lives far away from family, so who would notice if they're gone? Sendie…

Magical medicine that can give you a son

Dear Spouse had an interesting short conversation with an older Hmong man recently.  This was how the conversation went: Hmong man: How many children do you and MaiBao have? Dear Spouse: We have two. Hmong man: How many boys? Dear Spouse: We have two girls. Hmong man: You should go find medicine for MaiBao so…

The value of a son

I read a blog post last night by MK Chang about the "requirement" for a Hmong couple to have at least one son.  MK Chang is a married Hmong American with children, like myself.  And like most Hmong married couples with no sons, MK Chang and her spouse are pressured by family to have at…