Say What?! Feminism is Veganism

Being feminist means being vegan. You can't be a true feminist if you're eating meat. I read this comment on Facebook and it hit a nerve with me. My first reaction was, "Why should people be telling others what to eat and what not to eat?" The more I thought about it, the more it bothered me for…

“Girls Will Be Happy If They Get Married Crying.”

Warning: Very emotionally tense videos ahead. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=459987150789877&set=vb.100003357884515&type=2&theater This is a video of a group of Black Hmong in Sapa, Vietnam. The young girl is being dragged by men who are practicing what we call zij poj niam---in other words, bride-napping. I first saw this video circulating the social network sites at the end of last year.…

A Hmong Wife’s Role

I came upon this scan of a Hmong text in a forum.  The original poster had stated that this reading material was used in a Hmong class at Washington Tech High School in Saint Paul, MN. It created great dislike within this group of Hmong women. Translation: A Hmong wife's responsibility is to oversee everything in…

Hmong Beauty

One question  I get asked a lot growing up is, "What is Hmong?"  It was annoying, but I have grown to live with it and answer it accordingly to how I feel at the moment and by whom. Another question I get asked as much is, "Are you really Hmong?" The former is asked by…

My Mermaid (Part 3)

This post is part of the My Mermaid series. Click on the links below to take you to previous posts: Introduction Prologue Part 1 Part 2 I couldn’t tell him face to face what happened.  So I left him a note in our locker.  “My mom hit me last night.  It wasn’t because of you.” …

My Mermaid (Prologue)

This blog post is part of the My Mermaid series. Click on the link below to take you to the previous post: Introduction My father was abusive, so it was bittersweet when he left.  I was 12 years old.  I thought life would be better now.  Little did I know that was just the beginning.…

Hmong Women and Bikinis

Summer is my all-time favorite season of the year, with Autumn/Fall being runner-up. Many people hate summer because of the heat.  Since I'm a person who gets cold easily, I welcome the scorching California weather. I could spend my days on the beach or by the lake or pool all summer long.  Others fear getting…

Why Some Hmong Girls Do Not Date Hmong Boys

I know many Hmong women who refuse to date, let alone marry a Hmong man.  Is this normal?  In my opinion, it's as normal as someone choosing to only marry within their race or ethnicity.  I've heard others criticize and patronize Hmong women who have made this choice (although there have been some progress, interracial/inter-ethnic…