Social Issues

“Girls Will Be Happy If They Get Married Crying.”

Warning: Very emotionally tense videos ahead. This is a video of a group of Black Hmong in Sapa, Vietnam. The young girl is being dragged by men who are practicing what we call zij poj niam—in other words, bride-napping. I first saw this video circulating the social network sites at the end of last year. And… Continue reading “Girls Will Be Happy If They Get Married Crying.”

Ramblings

Mi Tes Mi Taw (Hands and Feet)

I felt a lot of emotions watching “Mi Tes Mi Taw” directed by Porsha Phoua Chang. She did a wonderful job telling a story that many of us can identify either with the son, daughter, mother, or daughter-in-law. One of the themes of this short film is gender roles within a traditional Hmong family. I’ve blogged about gender… Continue reading Mi Tes Mi Taw (Hands and Feet)

Social Issues

Why Some Hmong Girls Do Not Date Hmong Boys

I know many Hmong women who refuse to date, let alone marry a Hmong man.  Is this normal?  In my opinion, it’s as normal as someone choosing to only marry within their race or ethnicity.  I’ve heard others criticize and patronize Hmong women who have made this choice (although there have been some progress, interracial/inter-ethnic… Continue reading Why Some Hmong Girls Do Not Date Hmong Boys

Social Issues

I am not Hmong; And I don’t speak Spanish!

A few of years ago, Dear Spouse’s niece exclaimed, “Auntie, I know how to say door in Spanish.”“Dora, the Explorer” was one of her favorite children’s television shows at that time.  I wondered if she had learned that from “Dora.” “How?” I asked. “Qhob rooj!” I gasped in surprise,  “That’s not Spanish!  That’s Hmong.  And… Continue reading I am not Hmong; And I don’t speak Spanish!