Say What?! Feminism is Veganism

Being feminist means being vegan. You can't be a true feminist if you're eating meat. I read this comment on Facebook and it hit a nerve with me. My first reaction was, "Why should people be telling others what to eat and what not to eat?" The more I thought about it, the more it bothered me for…

What It Means To Be A Hmong Girl

"What It Means To Be A Hmong Girl" By Maly Yang It means to be a daughter, to become an outsider and a stranger to the family you grew up with It means to be a wife, bounded for life to your husband and his clan It means to be a mother, to love, laugh,…

I Am A Hmong Woman

“I am a Hmong Woman” by Pang Hang The ground burns like fire as I walk Passing by the trees that speaks to my heart I am making the pathways of my life By holding to my heart with my head held high I know that I have to respect my traditions and cultures I…

Two Sides to Every Story

  A woman told me years ago that she understands the dynamics of domestic violence. She understands that there are many different types of abuse: verbal, mental, physical, etc.  But she also understands that sometimes women provoke a man to abuse them.  (???)  I quote her when I write this, "If she brings out the…

Survivor

Why am I passionate about empowering individuals and families affected by domestic violence?  Why am I dedicated to work towards societal change, even if I probably will not see it in my lifetime?  Am I a survivor?  Since it's Halloween---my favorite holiday of the year---I will tell you my personal horror story. I am a…

The Hmong: Slow to change

The Hmong community is slowly turning around---and I do stress the word "slowly."  It has taken the patriarchal Hmong society 30 years in the US to finally realize that we have a problem with domestic violence (DV). In July of this year, a conference called “Breaking the Silence Collaboratively: Creating Healthy Families for the Present & Future”…

Hmong murder-suicides

In November 1998, Young Sayaxang Lee (37) fatally shot his wife, Maichao Vang (28), and also shot and killed himself.  The oldest daughter (11) discovered her mother's body in the bedroom of their home and called 911.  Police discovered Young's body in the basement. In 2006, Joanne Khang (25) was stabbed to death by her…