Hmong Wife vs. Hmong Girlfriend

I have been noticing a trend as friends and family are getting married over the recent years. I have observed that it is completely okay for a girlfriend to lack in the cooking, cleaning, and other "womenly" duties department, but once she's married, she is expected to conform to traditional roles. What is the difference…

How to Train Your Man

I will never forget a conversation I had with an acquaintance of mine.  Seeing how "well-behaved" my spouse is, she asked how I trained him so well. "Excuse me?" I asked, confused as to what she was referring to. "I mean, train him to be such a good husband.  He lets you go out with…

Traditional Hmong weddings and marriages

The Hmong consists of 18 last (sur) names, making up 18 official clans.  It is taboo to marry someone from the same clan.  For instance, someone with the Yang last name cannot marry another Yang.  In some families, it is also taboo to marry someone with the same clan name as your mother's maiden name.…