Hmong Wife vs. Hmong Girlfriend

I have been noticing a trend as friends and family are getting married over the recent years. I have observed that it is completely okay for a girlfriend to lack in the cooking, cleaning, and other "womenly" duties department, but once she's married, she is expected to conform to traditional roles. What is the difference…

Letter to the Girlfriend of my Abusive Ex

Dear girlfriend of my abusive ex; We don't know each other, but I am sure you have heard a lot about me, as I have about you.  I am the crazy psycho ex-girlfriend of your boyfriend.  It has been brought to my attention that my name is still being uttered in your presence---by him and…

Love and Respect

I hear many people talk about love as something to fight for.  We see it and hear it everywhere: the media, online, friends, family, quotes.  If you search online for inspirational love quotes, you will come upon a feast of them.  Love is battlefield.  It's us against the world.  Nothing can come between us. If…

I will never have closure.

My father left my mom and 7 children when I was 12 years old for another woman.   I saw him once and spoke to him about 3-4 times since then.   It’s been 13 years and I thought I had gotten over my father being a dead-beat dad and leaving us. I was so…