How to Train Your Man

I will never forget a conversation I had with an acquaintance of mine.  Seeing how "well-behaved" my spouse is, she asked how I trained him so well. "Excuse me?" I asked, confused as to what she was referring to. "I mean, train him to be such a good husband.  He lets you go out with…

Sisters, Dearest

I had been wanting to write this blog for some time now.  I just never had the motivation until one day, while I was working on the last installment of the "My Mermaid" series, I found a poem in my dusty poetry binder from oh-so-long ago.  It was titled "Fucken Sister."  I was shocked with…

My Mermaid (Part 1)

This blog post is part of the My Mermaid series. Click on the links below to take you to the previous posts: Introduction Prologue  Many girls grow up dreaming of falling in love with Prince Charming and living happily ever after.  I never had such a dream.  While my friends day dreamed of fairy tale…

My Mermaid (Intro)

I have been inspired and empowered by strong and courageous individuals on I Am Hmong Beauty (IAHB).  This is the first time I have taken to reflect on and write out my story.  Those who know me personally may have witnessed or heard bits and pieces, but do not know my story in its entirety.…

Why Some Hmong Girls Do Not Date Hmong Boys

I know many Hmong women who refuse to date, let alone marry a Hmong man.  Is this normal?  In my opinion, it's as normal as someone choosing to only marry within their race or ethnicity.  I've heard others criticize and patronize Hmong women who have made this choice (although there have been some progress, interracial/inter-ethnic…

My biases: Cheaters and abusers

I believe that I am a fair person.  I try not to judge.  I try to understand.  I may not agree with other people's choices or lifestyles, but I can empathize.  Any kind of person.  Any kind of situation.  Unless you're a cheater or an abuser. Cheaters and abusers are the dirtiest, lowest scums in…

Good deeds and appreciation

I know I've blogged about this before, but here I go again (more in depth) because I am very passionate about this topic. It annoys me when people are constantly complaining about how much they’ve done for you and how you’ve never done anything in return.  Or how it’s always a fight on who’s done…