“Girls Will Be Happy If They Get Married Crying.”

Warning: Very emotionally tense videos ahead. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=459987150789877&set=vb.100003357884515&type=2&theater This is a video of a group of Black Hmong in Sapa, Vietnam. The young girl is being dragged by men who are practicing what we call zij poj niam---in other words, bride-napping. I first saw this video circulating the social network sites at the end of last year.…

What It Means To Be A Hmong Girl

"What It Means To Be A Hmong Girl" By Maly Yang It means to be a daughter, to become an outsider and a stranger to the family you grew up with It means to be a wife, bounded for life to your husband and his clan It means to be a mother, to love, laugh,…

The value of a son

I read a blog post last night by MK Chang about the "requirement" for a Hmong couple to have at least one son.  MK Chang is a married Hmong American with children, like myself.  And like most Hmong married couples with no sons, MK Chang and her spouse are pressured by family to have at…

The good wife’s guide

(Source: Housekeeping Monthly: May 13, 1955) I was looking through my volunteer training binder, just trying to refresh on somethings I learned, when I came across an article a fellow volunteer brought to the training.  It's called, "The good wife's guide." Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal…